Masturbation in a Relationship? Healthy or Noxious

Is masturbation in a relationship an issue? Recently I came across a study that focused on how often students masturbated in four weeks. During the study, only a slight difference can be seen between various groups. For both men and women, masturbation remained more or less constant whether they had a satisfying steady relationship or had neither a partner nor intercourse. (Figure 1). It appears that masturbation does not act as a form of reward for the lack of satisfying partner sex. Masturbation itself is utilized for its own sake by both men and women. The only differences lay in how frequently they masturbated. Men in particular did so less often the more intimate and satisfying the partnership (Figure 2).

Figure 1- Masturbation in a Relationship
figure2 - masturbation in a relationship

Another remarkable finding is, sex research has consistently come up with evidence that the longer a partnership lasts the less intercourse the partners are likely to have. Does this reduction in sex necessarily mean that masturbation rises? The data suggests that this is not the case. While the sample intercourse is less frequent for those in a longer relationship, the frequency of masturbation appears to be stable over time (Figure 3).


Masturbation in a RElationship, The Findings

Despite these findings, both attitudes towards masturbation become easily discernible. Three-quarters of students state that it is “a form of sex in its own right.” When pressed on their motives for last masturbating last, 50-60% in solid relationships “just felt like it”. With a smaller percentage falling into the “we couldn’t have sex together” category.

These lead researchers to believe there is a new approach to masturbation. Having it be both freely available and a self-determined form of sex. The subjects feel that masturbation itself isn’t bound up by the complications and demands of a sexual partner.

Do those who have a steady partner regardless feel more of a stigma around masturbation than their single counterparts? Less than one in ten men and women had moral scruples after masturbating. A slight edge on those in a steady relationship verse single. Apart from this result, studies found that men and women students in partnerships were even slightly more positively inclined towards masturbation than those who were alone .


Incidentally, there was little difference between the reports the students gave on their most recent masturbation and their most recent sexual encounter. At least as far as the sexual pleasure involved was concerned. Only those items describing the emotional intensity of the experience revealed the special role played by partner sex. After having intercourse roughly twice as many men and women are “happy” as compared to masturbation alone. They also described intercourse much more often as “a passionate experience” .

If we assume that the shifts between 1966 and 1981 were mainly linked to more liberal sexual attitudes that freed people of some repressions and enabled them to masturbate in relationships more freely and often. Then the changes between 1981 and 1996 are above all concerned with masturbation as a form of sexual behavior in its own right: it has lost its compensatory character and now exists for many men and women as a separate means of gaining sexual satisfaction. In this sense, it is not only relief in moments when other offers arc not available, but above all an easy delight in consuming sex.

So by all sense of the words, we can simply agree that masturbation in a relationship is seen and in most cases healthy. Masturbation alone and together is a great tool to bring to any relationship. It allows not only yourself but your partner to understand what they enjoy and want from others. Explore our wide range of masturbation toys to bring your pleasure to the next level.

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