A lot of people ask which lube they should be using. And honestly there isn’t one straight answer. It depends on what you are doing, what toys and tools you also might be using and what part of the body you want to focus on. All these things can drastically change the needs for different lubes.
So instead of saying use this lube or use that, instead I will talk about the different type of lubes and their applications to give you an idea of what might work best for you. Since everyone is different its best to keep different types on hand incase you come across someone who needs or prefers something different than yourself. The one firm belief we do stand by here is that lube 100% makes everything more enjoyable.
WATER-BASED “LIQUIDY” LUBES
These slick, wet lubes are nonirritating, nonstaining, odorless, and tasteless; they are very popular for vaginal sex because they have a very similar consistency to natural vaginal secretions and are easy to wash off toys and bodies. These lubes are thin and liquidy, and a little amount tends to go a long way. Some people complain that water-based lubes dry up fast, but you can simply add a little water or saliva to revive their powers.
WATER-BASED THICKER LUBES
These lubes have the same properties and advantages as their thinner counterparts. The only difference is in their consistency; they tend to feel more like hair gel or jelly. Many people like to use these thicker lubes for anal play because they provide extensive lubrication and tend to dry up less quickly than watery varieties
Crisco isn’t just for baking cookies! Oil-based lubes are a longtime favorite lubricant of those who practice anal fisting. Oil-based lubes don’t evaporate and dry up the way water-based lubes do. The most important thing to know about oil-based lubes is that they break down latex. Some oil-based lubes can create very small holes in your latex condoms, gloves, and dental dams. Thus rendering them ineffective as barriers. Never use oil-based lubes with condoms worn by a male partner.
If you use an oil-based lube with a condom over a toy, you still need to clean and disinfect the toy before and after play. Pinprick holes can allow body fluids to pass through the latex onto the toy. Latex gloves are usually thicker than condoms. They break down less in the presence of oil-based lubes. We recommend that if you use oil-based lubes with gloves.
You change into fresh glove every fifteen to twenty minutes. Best reserve their use for anal play by yourself or with a monogamous or fluid-bonded partner. Oil-based lubricants are harder to wash out of the body. They should used in or around the vagina with caution.
A silicone or polysiloxane are polymers made up of siloxane. They are typically colorless, oils or rubber-like substances. Silicone-based lubricants are the most slippery. This can make them especially good for non-vaginal intercourse. Unlike an oil-based lube, a silicon lube won’t break down latex. They work well in water, and they don’t evaporate like water-based lubricants or saliva.
Many also are free of potential irritating glycols and glycerin; check the label to be sure. They can cause damage to some silicone sex toys. The lubricate can solidify onto the toy. It also tends to leave a sticky residue on your body even after washing up. If you don’t mind the extra work they are a preferred premium lube for most use cases.
Just remember that all lubes aren’t made equal. Picking the right lube for the right job is something everyone should know. But also remember that using the wrong lube most likely won’t hurt you so you shouldn’t freak out. Just make sure you learn for the next time.